You may have heard of the liberating, empowering experience most women feel after their first boudoir photoshoot, but did you know you can bring your hunnie along for couples boudoir as well? In fact, if you can let your inhibitions go a little bit, it can be a playful, safe space for you to deepen your relationship with your partner with results you can keep for a lifetime!
In this post, we address everything you need to know about couples boudoir so you can loop your partner in on the experience, and give them yet one more reason to celebrate what’s great and sexy about what you have together.
What Is Couples Boudoir?
Picture the glam of hair and makeup artists, the wardrobe that makes you feel confident, and the controlled lighting of the photographer’s studio. That’s where you and your sweetheart come in! Professionals like Rami have the delightful task of capturing the tenor of your intimacy with the one you love, playing with the natural chemistry you have to share.
Why Do It?
If you’re on the fence about bringing in a third party to photograph something so intimate, that’s natural. However, overwhelmingly couples who make it past this hurdle and participate in boudoir leave feeling playful, satisfied with their partner, and like they’ve deepened their relationship with the one they love. In short, they have fun! It’s a fun, sexy way to add fuel to the flame of your relationship while celebrating what makes your partnership strong, beautiful, and unique.
Plus, participating couples have lasting mementos to keep! Here are some great circumstances worthy of celebrating with couples boudoir:
- Relationship Milestones: Are you freshly married? Hit a 15-, 30-, or 50-year anniversary? Maybe you’ve been dating for six months and you’re crazy for each other and this will bring you joy. Wherever you’re at in your relationship with your partner, celebrate it!
- Surprise Birthday Gift: This is the gift that gives both ways! You get to capture the moment on camera while exploring your ongoing dynamic with each other.
- One-of-a-Kind Date Night Idea: Ever feel like trips to the movie theater can get a little stale? Mix it up and reacquaint yourselves with each other in this fun, intimate setting!
- Couples in a Military or Long-Distance Relationship Reunited at Last: Lord knows, these long-distance couples deserve applause. Give your hunnie the intimate gift of the session itself, made sweeter by the portraits they can take with them when they can’t be close!
- Why not…? Is it something you’ve never done before? Why not? For many, boudoir is a confidence-boosting experience that deepens their relationship with themselves and with their partner.
What To Do Before a Couples Boudoir Shoot
Now that you’ve successfully talked your partner into showing up and playing with you in the studio, it’s time to think about what you want to get out of the session. Decide if you want to be sweet, cuddly, and flirty, or if you’d like to take things in a more erotic and sensual direction. Once you can identify the general vibe the two of you are going for, it’s time to find a photographer whose work you love. Check their portfolio to see if they can get you the results you’re looking for—but keep in mind just because you don’t see it in their portfolio yet doesn’t mean they wouldn’t be happy to explore new tricks or ideas! Fortunately, this can be a great way to introduce yourself to your photographer and get a feel for if y’all would be a good fit.
Know Your Budget
When it comes to boudoir, there can be a wide range of price points available in your area—so which one is best? Well, like many things in life, you get what you pay for with boudoir. Typically, people find it’s worth it to put some money away and save for the photographer that they’d really like to work with versus opting for a cheaper boudoir experience that might not yield the results you’re looking for.
Understand that with pricing, oftentimes, the preliminary cost estimate is just the cost for the photographer’s time in the studio. In some cases, purchasing photos or bundle deals comes at an additional fee.
To eliminate stretching beyond your comfort level, reach out to your photographer and see if they can work with you within your means. Photographers like Rami even offer payment plans for those who want the boudoir experience but don’t wish to pay the bill in one lump sum. With flexible payment plans, couples experiencing boudoir can play without worry while working with the right fit for their circumstances.
What To Wear and Bring to Your Session
Once you’ve determined the vibe you’d like to go for on the sliding scale between flirty and cute to steamy and risqué, you’ll need to decide what to wear. Some couples like to match in their favorite baggy t-shirt and underwear or juxtapose formal wear with lingerie. Check with your photographer and see if they have a wardrobe you can play in and find something that sparks some interest.
Consider bringing props that feel authentic to your intimate experience: robes, leather crops, handcuffs, or blindfolds are all favorites. (For more ideas on what to wear to your boudoir session, click here.)
So…Is Couples Boudoir Worth It?
If you’ve done any amount of digging on boudoir photography, you know there’s a wide range of price points out there with a wide range of professionalism. In this business, the higher price tag often means you will be working with someone experienced and professional who can help you celebrate your love and get the most out of your session. The gift of boudoir is really two-fold: the experience itself, and the lasting photos to keep forever.